Safety. When someone violates a procedure or otherwise acts
in an unsafe way, the first person to see the problem, regard less of his or her position, steps up and holds a crucial con
versation.
• Productivity. If an employee underperforms, fails to live up to a promise, doesn’t carry his or her fair share, or simply isn’t productive enough, the affected parties address the problem immediately.
• Diversity. When someone feels offended, threatened, insulted,
or harassed, he or she skillfully and comfortably, discusses the issue with the offending party.
• Quality. In companies where quality rules, people discuss problems face-to-face when they first come up.
• Ellery other hot topic. Companies that are best-in-class in inno
vation. teamwork, change management, or any other area that
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calls for human interaction are best-in-class in holding the rel evant crucial conversations.
What’s the relationship between success in a key area and crucial conversations? Companies that make impressive improvements in key performance areas (and eventually master them) are gen erally no different than others in their efforts to improve. They conduct the same awareness training, print the same banners, and make the same speeches. They differ in what happens when someone does something wrong. Rather than waiting for a poli cy to kick in or a leader to take charge, people step up, speak up, and thrive. Equally important, if it’s a leader who seems to be out of line, employees willingly speak up, the problem is solved, and the company moves on.
So what about you? Is your organization stuck in its progress toward some important goal? If so, are there conversations that you’re either avoiding or botching? And how about the people you work with? Are they stepping up to or walking away from crucial conversations? Could you take a big step forward by improving how you deal with these conversations?
Improve Your Relationships
Consider the impact crucial conversations can have on your relationships. Could failed crucial conversations lead to failed relationships? As it turns out, when you ask the average person what causes couples to break up, he or she usually suggests that it’s due to differences of opinion. You know, people have differ ent theories about how to manage their finances, spice up their love lives, or rear their children. In truth, everyone argues about important issues. But not everyone splits up. It’s how you argue that matters.
For example, when Clifford Notarius and Howard Markman (two noted marriage scholars) examined couples in the throes of
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heated discussions, they learned that people fall into three cate
gories-those who digress into threats and name-calling, those who revert to silent fuming, and those who speak openly, hon estly, and effectively
