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Contents

Cover Endorsements i Half Title Page iii Title Page v Copyright Page vi Detailed Contents ix Illustrations xvii Preface xix

Part 1: Theological and Social Perspectives on Family Life 1 1. A Theological Foundation for Family Relationships: Developing a

Theology of the Family 3 2. The Family as a Developing Biosocial System 24

Part 2: Marriage: The Foundation of Family Life 47 3. Mate Selection and Cohabitation: Romance and Reality 49 4. Establishing Marriage: Moving toward Differentiated Unity 78 5. A Model for Biblical Marriage 94

Part 3: The Expansion of Family Life: Parenting and Beyond 109 6. Parenting: The Process of Relationship Empowerment 111 7. Developing a Mature, Reciprocating Self 130 8. Family Spirituality: Nurturing Christian Beliefs, Morals, and

Values 154

 

 

9. Adolescence and Midlife: Challenging Changes 167 10. The Joys and Challenges of Family in Later Life 179

Part 4: Gender and Sexuality: Identity in Family Life 199 11. Changing Gender Roles and Relations: The Impact on Family

Life 201 12. Becoming an Authentic Sexual Self 217

Part 5: Communication: The Heart of Family Life 237 13. Intimate Communication: Expressing Love and Anger 239

Part 6: The Social Dynamics of Family Life 257 14. Work and the Family: Conflict or Collaboration? 259 15. Through the Stress and Pain of Family Life 270 16. Divorce and Single-Parent Families 282 17. Complex Families in Contemporary Society 298

Part 7: Family Life in Postmodern Society 315 18. Biblical Family Values in a Modern and Postmodern World 317 19. Creating a Family-Friendly Society 331

Bibliography 343 Index 379 Back Cover 390

 

 

Detailed Contents

Cover Endorsements i Half Title Page iii Title Page v Copyright Page vi Illustrations xvii Preface xix

Part 1: Theological and Social Perspectives on Family Life 1 1. A Theological Foundation for Family Relationships: Developing a

Theology of the Family 3 Trinitarian Relationality 4

God in Relationship 6

Elements in a Theology of Family Relationships 8

Covenant: To Love and Be Loved 10

Grace: To Forgive and Be Forgiven 13

Empowerment: To Serve and Be Served 15

Intimacy: To Know and Be Known 19

Applying the Theological Model: From Hurting to Healing Behaviors 20

2. The Family as a Developing Biosocial System 24 Family-Systems Theory 24

Simple Feedback Cybernetic Control Morphogenesis Reorientation

 

 

Biological Influences on the Family 32

Genetic Factors Neurological Factors

Family-Development Theory 35

An Integration of Systems and Development Theories 39

Cohesion Adaptability Communication Role Structure

Part 2: Marriage: The Foundation of Family Life 47 3. Mate Selection and Cohabitation: Romance and Reality 49

Mate Selection in Traditional Cultures 50

Mate Selection and the Role of Romantic Love 52

Theories of Mate Selection 54

“Like Marries Like” Theory Bowen Family Systems Theory Personality Theory Filter Theory Marriage Markets Theory Other Theories

A Christian Perspective on Mate Selection 57

Cohabitation: A Path toward or Alternative to Marriage? 60

Is Cohabitation a Step toward Marriage? What Does Culture Have to Do with It? Making the Decision to Cohabit

WHAT DOES LOVE HAVE TO DO WITH IT? WHAT DOES COMMITMENT HAVE TO DO WITH IT? EVENTUAL OUTCOMES

Does Premarital Cohabitation Lead to Marital Adjustment? Is There a Selective Factor? How Does Cohabitation Impact Children? A Christian Perspective on Cohabitation

WHAT IS THE NATURE OF COMMITMENT IN COHABITING RELATIONSHIPS?

WHEN ARE TWO PEOPLE MARRIED IN THE SIGHT OF GOD?

 

 

IS COHABITATION A THREAT TO THE INSTITUTION OF MARRIAGE? HOW SHOULD THE CHURCH RESPOND TO COHABITING COUPLES?

Discerning God’s Will 75

4. Establishing Marriage: Moving toward Differentiated Unity 78 Factors That Predict Marital Quality 78

Resolving Issues Related to the Family of Origin 80

Parents as Role Models Parental Support Adaptability

The Dilemma of Modern Marriage 86

Differentiated Unity: Becoming One and Retaining Uniqueness 87

Learning New Roles in the Marital Dance 89

Adjustment in the Marital Dance 93

5. A Model for Biblical Marriage 94 Commitment 95

Adaptability 99

Leadership and Decision-Making 102

Communication 104

Dual-Earner Marriage 104

The Mindset at the Center of Christian Marriage 107

Part 3: The Expansion of Family Life: Parenting and Beyond 109 6. Parenting: The Process of Relationship Empowerment 111

The Basic Components of Parenting Styles 114

Approaches to Discipline Types of Leadership

Alternative Parenting Styles 117

Instrumental Parenting NEGLECTFUL TEACHING MODELING DISCIPLING

 

 

Socio-emotional Parenting NEGLECTFUL AUTHORITARIAN PERMISSIVE AUTHORITATIVE

Other Impacts of Parenting Styles 123

Biological Factors in Parenting 124

A Biblical Model of Parenting 125

The Case for Coparenting 128

7. Developing a Mature, Reciprocating Self 130 Theories of Child Development 132

Psychoanalytic Theory: Internal Focus Erikson’s Neopsychoanalytic or Psychosocial Theory: Infancy through Adulthood Cognitive Structural Theories Cognitive Development Theory: The Child as a Developing Scientist Object Relations Theory: The Child as an Object Needing Love Social Learning Theory: The Child as Learner Vygotsky’s Sociocultural Theory: Parenting as Scaffolding Social Ecology: Child Development in the Village

A Critique of Child Development Theories in Light of Biblical Assumptions 143

Internal Tension Capacity to Make Choices Created for Community

Parenting Young Children 146

Unconditional Love and Self-Validation Acceptance of Differences Inherent in the Family Constellation Communication Forgiveness Serving Discipline

8. Family Spirituality: Nurturing Christian Beliefs, Morals, and Values 154

Moral Development 155

Faith Development 157

A Trinitarian Model of Family Spirituality 159

 

 

Differentiation in Christ Spiritual Differentiation in the Family Family Spirituality and Sanctification

Dealing with Differences in Faith 162

Family Spirituality Embedded in Supportive Community 164

Family Spirituality as a Process 165

9. Adolescence and Midlife: Challenging Changes 167 Adolescence 168

The Origin of the Adolescent Stage Adolescence as an Identity Crisis

Midlife 171

Parent-Adolescent Relationships 173

Parental Stimuli of Adolescent Rebellion UNWISE CHILD-REARING PRACTICES UNSATISFACTORY DIVISION OF PARENTAL AUTHORITY

Empowering Adolescent Children

10. The Joys and Challenges of Family in Later Life 179 The Launching Stage 180

Transition Tasks Contemporary Obstacles to Successful Launching

The Postlaunching Stage 183

Grandparenting Multigenerational Households

The Retirement Stage 190

Couple Satisfaction and Challenge Caring for Aging Family Members

Part 4: Gender and Sexuality: Identity in Family Life 199 11. Changing Gender Roles and Relations: The Impact on Family

Life 201 Why Gender Roles and Relations Are Changing 202

Explanations of Gender Differences 203

Critical Theory

 

 

Biblical Feminism A Radical Proposal for Reconciliation Toward an Integrated View of Gender Differences

Changing Gender Relations and Family Life 211

Women in Family Life Men in Family Life

Coparenting: The Need for Mothering and Fathering 213

A Concluding Comment 215

12. Becoming an Authentic Sexual Self 217 Societal Attitudes toward Sexuality 218

The Origin of Sexuality 220

The Meaning of Sexuality 222

A Biblical Perspective on Human Sexuality 223

Sexual Wholeness in a Broken World 225

Sex and Singleness Masturbation Sexual Identity Marital Sexuality

Part 5: Communication: The Heart of Family Life 237 13. Intimate Communication: Expressing Love and Anger 239

The Effects of Expressing Love 240

Nonverbal Expressions of Love Obstacles to Expressing Love The Expression of Love in Family Relationships

Expressing Anger: Negotiating the Inevitable Conflicts 245

A Destructive Approach to Conflict: Denial Constructive Approaches

IDENTIFY THE ISSUE STICK TO THE ISSUE CHOOSE THE RIGHT TIME AND PLACE AFFIRM THE POSITIVES LEAVE PAST ISSUES IN THE PAST AVOID ATTACKING BEHAVIORS

 

 

AVOID PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIORS AVOID TRIANGLES

A Biblical Perspective on Anger Conflict Resolution Conflict Management

WITHDRAWERS YIELDERS WINNERS RESOLVERS COMPROMISERS

Part 6: The Social Dynamics of Family Life 257 14. Work and the Family: Conflict or Collaboration? 259

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